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July 26, 2021

Hello my fellow oa’ers! Enjoying the heat? Just kidding. These are the dog days and not in a good way.

I discovered meditation in high school but I never did it consistently until OA. My day goes so much smoother when I meditate. Usually I do it lying down in bed before I go to work. One day I’ll try sitting up. As I promised to discuss my methods of meditation.

  1. I use an app that is a meditation timer. I just sit and breath and try to focus.

This is the one I use.

2. I discovered meditation beads. They really helped me focus. There are a slew of ways to use them. After I made myself nuts trying to do it in the direction and style that was suggested, I just pulled one bead through my fingers for an inhale then one for an exhale.

Here is a picture of my beads. I splurged a little and got them from Coyote Moon:

3. I use different meditation videos. Here is a link to my favorites:

Words of Wisdom from Atiya

Every OA group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions. 
    -Tradition Seven

In the past week, three of the people closest to me all experienced some stage of grief from death of people close to them. This morning, I zoomed into the last few minutes of my home group OA meeting (after a very good night’s sleep and morning meditation) where I heard a share on Tradition Seven.  In the few minutes I attended, I had a spiritual awakening.    

In the chapter Working With Others, we learn that intensive work with another compulsive eater is immunity against destructive behaviors with food. There are many other places in our literature that address the concept of getting out of ourselves and being of service to others as an imperative part of our healing. Yet, I have also learned that I need to have something to give in order to “give it away.”  This is where Tradition Seven comes in. By incorporating Tradition Seven into my daily spiritual practices, this week I was able to take care of myself AND be present to the people in my life who were experiencing pain and loss.  I was able to be of service in ways that were meaningful to each of them.
I cannot give from an empty well. You all have taught me how to take care of myself so that I can then give care to those around me.  Thank you for teaching me how to be!  

Atiya M.Durham, NC, USA919-302-1030 (no text messages, please)

From the Virtual Region

Dear Regions, Intergroups, Groups and Individuals of Overeaters Anonymous, The Virtual Region of Overeaters Anonymous is excited to tell you about our upcoming workshops in the workshop series. We can access the flyers for July 11th, July 24th, August 8th, August 28th. We are looking forward to you joining us. Please pass this information on to all groups and individuals in your area. All regions, intergroups, groups and individuals are most welcome to attend. Virtual Region Workshop Committee

We will hear from the speakers first, questions for the speakers and open sharing time will then follow.  VIRTUAL REGION WORKSHOP ROOM INFORMATION
Please click on the link below with a computer or laptop to get the conference’s video portion, or you may download the app to use with a smart tablet/phone.
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Blog post

June 16, 2021

Hello my fellow oa’ers. Getting a little hot out there? Anyway, I was in a meeting the other day and due to circumstances beyond anyone’s control and a few technical issues, it was just 3 of us. Believe it or not we had a really good meeting. I just feel bad for the other person who had technical issues. I had been in the program longer than everyone else and they had questions for me. We talked in depth about many things. I shared my morning routine and thought you guys would like to see it.

So – because of the way my mind works I have to vary it or it gets to be rote or common place. I hope this helps.


Anne B.

P.S. Next time I’ll talk more about meditation and my evening routine.

The routine I normally do is:

  1. The long version of the Serenity Prayer,
  2. The 11th step prayer.
  3. The 3rd step prayer.
  4. The 7th step prayer.
  5. I’ll read out of For Today or Voices of Recovery
  6. I’ll read a few pages out of the Big Book.
  7. I’ll write down some gratitudes.
  8. Mediation.
  9. At some point during the day, I’ll journal.

Or I’ll use the OA app. This is what it looks like:

Available for apple or android. In that app:

  1. I’ll read Today’s Reflection on the AA Website
  2. On Awaking from the Big Book
  3. Serenity Prayer
  4. 3rd Step Prayer
  5. 11th Step Prayer
  6. Thomas Merton Prayer.

A third routine is from an AA site:

This pdf:

More Words of Wisdom From Atiya

Recently a friend mentioned that one of her former sponsors took an annual inventory of the relationship with her sponsees.  I thought that this was a great idea.  I put together a few important (to me) questions and answered them for my relationships.  I am asking my OA sponsor and my OA sponsee to also answer the questions (and add questions if they are so inclined).  I will then share my reflections with each of them and invite them to share with me.  

Here are the questions that I came up with:
Why do I have a sponsor? 
Why do I have sponsees?  
Do I believe in my heart that the relationship with my sponsor is currently working for me?  What about the daily calls? Are they necessary? 
What about the relationship with my sponsee?     
That I am taking time to inventory the relationships demonstrates how important sponsorship is to me and to my recovery. 

I will share my reflections as a future recovery topic.  I invite you to consider doing your own sponsorship inventory!  Together we get better.
Hugs and love,
Atiya M.Raleigh, NC, USA919-302-1030 no text messages please

Awesome questions! Love hearing from Atiyah! You’re welcome to send feedback anytime my fellow oa’ers.

Words of Wisdom From Atiya

Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
     -Step Six

An OA group ought never endorse, finance or lend the OA name to any related facility or outside enterprise, lest problems of money, property and prestige divert us from our primary purpose.
     -Tradition Six

As I finished my walk, I thought about Step Six.  It is one of the steps (the other being Eight) that calls for taking time to be still and reflect.  The action of Step Six can be considered inaction – learning how to pause and think before I act; learning how to sit with myself and my discomforts.  Before I can move on to Step Seven, I first use Step Six to begin to accept those parts of myself that I began to learn about in Steps Four and Five.  Usually, it was the parts of myself that were buried away (under fat and fear).  

Step Six reminds me that healing is a process and that it takes time.  This is where Tradition Six can come into play.  Tradition Six helps me to establish boundaries.  Not everything is for me or about me.  As my recovery takes time, I need to leave some things alone, to focus on my business.  If I am focusing on outside distractions (and I can be distracted by almost anything) it will seem as if I don’t have time for my own business (my recovery; my life).    
Today I am willing to sit with myself.  

Atiya M.Durham, NC, USA919-302-1030 (no text messages please)

More from Atiya

Yesterday I shared on a recovery panel.  The topic was Relationships in Recovery.  Many people hear the word “relationship” and think about romantic relationships (in a similar way, people hear the word “intimacy” and think of sex).  However, I have many different types of relationships in my life.  

One of the reasons why I isolated and ate before recovery was because I did not know how to have relationships.  My relationship tools were dishonesty, being an emotional parasite and severing relationships.  These tools caused me pain that made it easier to be alone.  Fortunately, I found you all and you taught me that not only could I learn how to stop eating compulsively, I could also learn how to have healthy relationships.  You also taught me that acceptance is a tool of health relationships.  
Yesterday morning I invited my niece to visit.  When we met, we discussed her future.  I shared my own experience and I also gave her advice.  As she was leaving, I said if she does nothing that I suggested I still love her.  How wonderful that you all taught me acceptance and that I can now give that gift to my niece!  
Together we get better . . . and better . . . and better! 🤗

Atiya M.

Raleigh, NC, USA

919-302-1030 no text messages please

I can’t rest on my laurels.

AA Big Book p85

Boy don’t I know it. When I start to let go of some of the things that got me to long terms of abstinence. What did I do? I got lazy. I stopped praying and meditating. I let go of a few crucial things that helped me stay clean. What happened? I was back in the food and miserable. The things I was doing: praying and meditating, reading literature, contacting other oa’ers, listening to OA and AA speakers, kept me clean. I have to remember this disease that it is cunning, baffling, and yes powerful. This is so true. If I want to overwhelm myself, I think about the fact that I will always be an addict. If I want to be real and smart, I just say One Day at a Time.