Wisdom from Atiya

A few months ago, I registered for the World Service Convention in Orlando.  I had not yet decided to attend, but was willing to let the registration fee turn into a Seventh Tradition donation if I decided not to go.  I eventually made the decision not to attend.  However, I then offered the registration to another member.  Shortly after the registration was transferred into her name, the Convention was canceled.  The registration fee was credited to my account.

I don’t know about you, but I like to receive money.  A part of me was on board with keeping it.  Instead I made myself commit to returning the sum to WSO.  OA as a whole took a financial hit from the canceled Convention.  Donating the registration fee is a small way to do what I can to help offset the burden.  
I made myself take action before I changed my mind (and before I typed this) and have now completed the donation to WSO.  Here is the link in case you too are willing to give back some of what has been freely given: https://oa.org/contribute/.  And perhaps I’ll see you at the next Convention in 2025!  


Atiya M.

Durham, NC, USA

myserenitymypeace@hotmail.com

God References in the Big Book

I was in a meeting and someone read off references to God in the Big Book so I looked it up and found a page. This is an abridged list from this website: https://aamo.info/bb/j41d/gloss_godref.htm

  1. God
  2. Power
  3. Power greater than themselves
  4. Something more than human power
  5. Power greater than myself
  6. Spirit of the Universe
  7. Something at work in a human heart which had done the impossible
  8. Creative Intelligence
  9. Universal Mind
  10. Spirit of Nature
  11. Czar of the Heavens
  12. My new-found Friend
  13. New God-consciousness within
  14. He
  15. Him
  16. His
  17. My Creator
  18. Power of God
  19. Father of Light who presides over us all
  20. The great clean wind of a mountain top blew through and through
  21. The region which there is no return through human aid
  22. Accept spiritual help
  23. Vital spiritual experiences
  24. The loving had powerful hand of God
  25. Living creator
  26. A spiritual remedy
  27. The spiritual answer
  28. Divine help
  29. Live on a spiritual basis
  30. Spiritual basis of life
  31. Needed power
  32. Power greater than ourselves
  33. The God idea
  34. A Power beyond ourselves
  35. Supreme Being
  36. Our own conception of God
  37. Spirit of the Universe
  38. A new sense of power and direction
  39. Realm of the Spirit
  40. God as we understood Him
  41. All Powerful, Guiding, Creative Intelligence
  42. Creation
  43. Presence of God
  44. God Sufficiency
  45. God is everything or else He is nothing. God either is or He isn’t.
  46. Fundamental idea of God.
  47. Great Reality.
  48. Presence of God
  49. Presence of Infinite Power and Love
  50. His Maker
  51. No human power
  52. He is the Principal, we are His agents
  53. He is the Father and we are His children
  54. We had a new Employer
  55. Thee
  56. Thy
  57. Sunlight of the Spirit
  58. Broad Highway
  59. Spiritual life
  60. God-conscious
  61. God’s hands
  62. Presence and Power of God
  63. Fellowship of the Spirit
  64. Road of Happy Destiny

Blog Post

July 26, 2021

Hello my fellow oa’ers! Enjoying the heat? Just kidding. These are the dog days and not in a good way.

I discovered meditation in high school but I never did it consistently until OA. My day goes so much smoother when I meditate. Usually I do it lying down in bed before I go to work. One day I’ll try sitting up. As I promised to discuss my methods of meditation.

  1. I use an app that is a meditation timer. I just sit and breath and try to focus.

This is the one I use.

2. I discovered meditation beads. They really helped me focus. There are a slew of ways to use them. After I made myself nuts trying to do it in the direction and style that was suggested, I just pulled one bead through my fingers for an inhale then one for an exhale.

Here is a picture of my beads. I splurged a little and got them from Coyote Moon:

3. I use different meditation videos. Here is a link to my favorites:

Words of Wisdom from Atiya

Every OA group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions. 
    -Tradition Seven


In the past week, three of the people closest to me all experienced some stage of grief from death of people close to them. This morning, I zoomed into the last few minutes of my home group OA meeting (after a very good night’s sleep and morning meditation) where I heard a share on Tradition Seven.  In the few minutes I attended, I had a spiritual awakening.    

In the chapter Working With Others, we learn that intensive work with another compulsive eater is immunity against destructive behaviors with food. There are many other places in our literature that address the concept of getting out of ourselves and being of service to others as an imperative part of our healing. Yet, I have also learned that I need to have something to give in order to “give it away.”  This is where Tradition Seven comes in. By incorporating Tradition Seven into my daily spiritual practices, this week I was able to take care of myself AND be present to the people in my life who were experiencing pain and loss.  I was able to be of service in ways that were meaningful to each of them.
I cannot give from an empty well. You all have taught me how to take care of myself so that I can then give care to those around me.  Thank you for teaching me how to be!  

Atiya M.Durham, NC, USA919-302-1030 (no text messages, please)myserenitymypeace@hotmail.com

From the Virtual Region

Dear Regions, Intergroups, Groups and Individuals of Overeaters Anonymous, The Virtual Region of Overeaters Anonymous is excited to tell you about our upcoming workshops in the workshop series. We can access the flyers for July 11th, July 24th, August 8th, August 28th. We are looking forward to you joining us. Please pass this information on to all groups and individuals in your area. All regions, intergroups, groups and individuals are most welcome to attend. Virtual Region Workshop Committee

We will hear from the speakers first, questions for the speakers and open sharing time will then follow.  VIRTUAL REGION WORKSHOP ROOM INFORMATION
Please click on the link below with a computer or laptop to get the conference’s video portion, or you may download the zoom.us app to use with a smart tablet/phone.
Join Zoom Meetinghttps://us02web.zoom.us/j/89165540024?pwd=eXZWSUNNdVhtZ3hHZHZJY2RRejkzdz090
Meeting ID: 891 6554 0024Password: 120912
For international dial-in numbers: https://zoom.us/zoomconference
Suggested workshop contribution $5http://oavirtualregion.org/region/seventh-tradition/
Podcasts from previous workshops:https://oavirtualregion.org/events/vrworkshops/virtual-region-podcasts/
FOR MORE INFORMATION:https://oavirtualregion.org/events/workshops/
(Sharlotte)  workshop@oavirtualregion.org or
(Lee) vicechair@oavirtualregion.org

Come together with the “Fourth Saturday of the Month Workshop” for rotating topics, brainstorming and sharing ideas that WORK!
YOU CAN FIND FLYERS FOR THE UPCOMING WORKSHOPS IN VARIOUS FORMATS HER
JULY 11 – THE SPONSOR – SPONSEE CONNECTION
JULY 24 – BONDAGE TO SELF
AUGUST 8 – A THREEFOLD DISEASE – PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL, AND SPIRITUAL
AUGUST 28 – THE PROMISES

Blog post

June 16, 2021

Hello my fellow oa’ers. Getting a little hot out there? Anyway, I was in a meeting the other day and due to circumstances beyond anyone’s control and a few technical issues, it was just 3 of us. Believe it or not we had a really good meeting. I just feel bad for the other person who had technical issues. I had been in the program longer than everyone else and they had questions for me. We talked in depth about many things. I shared my morning routine and thought you guys would like to see it.

So – because of the way my mind works I have to vary it or it gets to be rote or common place. I hope this helps.

Thanks,

Anne B.

P.S. Next time I’ll talk more about meditation and my evening routine.

The routine I normally do is:

  1. The long version of the Serenity Prayer,
  2. The 11th step prayer.
  3. The 3rd step prayer.
  4. The 7th step prayer.
  5. I’ll read out of For Today or Voices of Recovery
  6. I’ll read a few pages out of the Big Book.
  7. I’ll write down some gratitudes.
  8. Mediation.
  9. At some point during the day, I’ll journal.

Or I’ll use the OA app. This is what it looks like:

Available for apple or android. In that app:

  1. I’ll read Today’s Reflection on the AA Website
  2. On Awaking from the Big Book
  3. Serenity Prayer
  4. 3rd Step Prayer
  5. 11th Step Prayer
  6. Thomas Merton Prayer.

A third routine is from an AA site:

This pdf:

More Words of Wisdom From Atiya

Recently a friend mentioned that one of her former sponsors took an annual inventory of the relationship with her sponsees.  I thought that this was a great idea.  I put together a few important (to me) questions and answered them for my relationships.  I am asking my OA sponsor and my OA sponsee to also answer the questions (and add questions if they are so inclined).  I will then share my reflections with each of them and invite them to share with me.  

Here are the questions that I came up with:
Why do I have a sponsor? 
Why do I have sponsees?  
Do I believe in my heart that the relationship with my sponsor is currently working for me?  What about the daily calls? Are they necessary? 
What about the relationship with my sponsee?     
That I am taking time to inventory the relationships demonstrates how important sponsorship is to me and to my recovery. 

I will share my reflections as a future recovery topic.  I invite you to consider doing your own sponsorship inventory!  Together we get better.
Hugs and love,
Atiya M.Raleigh, NC, USA919-302-1030 no text messages please

myserenitymypeace@hotmail.com

Awesome questions! Love hearing from Atiyah! You’re welcome to send feedback anytime my fellow oa’ers.

Words of Wisdom From Atiya

Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
     -Step Six


An OA group ought never endorse, finance or lend the OA name to any related facility or outside enterprise, lest problems of money, property and prestige divert us from our primary purpose.
     -Tradition Six


As I finished my walk, I thought about Step Six.  It is one of the steps (the other being Eight) that calls for taking time to be still and reflect.  The action of Step Six can be considered inaction – learning how to pause and think before I act; learning how to sit with myself and my discomforts.  Before I can move on to Step Seven, I first use Step Six to begin to accept those parts of myself that I began to learn about in Steps Four and Five.  Usually, it was the parts of myself that were buried away (under fat and fear).  

Step Six reminds me that healing is a process and that it takes time.  This is where Tradition Six can come into play.  Tradition Six helps me to establish boundaries.  Not everything is for me or about me.  As my recovery takes time, I need to leave some things alone, to focus on my business.  If I am focusing on outside distractions (and I can be distracted by almost anything) it will seem as if I don’t have time for my own business (my recovery; my life).    
Today I am willing to sit with myself.  


Atiya M.Durham, NC, USA919-302-1030 (no text messages please)myserenitymypeace@hotmail.com

More from Atiya

Yesterday I shared on a recovery panel.  The topic was Relationships in Recovery.  Many people hear the word “relationship” and think about romantic relationships (in a similar way, people hear the word “intimacy” and think of sex).  However, I have many different types of relationships in my life.  

One of the reasons why I isolated and ate before recovery was because I did not know how to have relationships.  My relationship tools were dishonesty, being an emotional parasite and severing relationships.  These tools caused me pain that made it easier to be alone.  Fortunately, I found you all and you taught me that not only could I learn how to stop eating compulsively, I could also learn how to have healthy relationships.  You also taught me that acceptance is a tool of health relationships.  
Yesterday morning I invited my niece to visit.  When we met, we discussed her future.  I shared my own experience and I also gave her advice.  As she was leaving, I said if she does nothing that I suggested I still love her.  How wonderful that you all taught me acceptance and that I can now give that gift to my niece!  
Together we get better . . . and better . . . and better! 🤗


Atiya M.

Raleigh, NC, USA

919-302-1030 no text messages please

myserenitymypeace@hotmail.com