A post from Atiya:
“It’s a beautiful day in the neighborhood ….”
I was out walking and the above came to mind in part because of the weather. It is simply gorgeous out. And also, because I recently heard someone share about the recovery quip: “Your mind is a dangerous neighborhood; don’t go into it alone.” Yet, because of my daily spiritual practices, which this morning included attending meetings, my mind is cleared of dangerous thoughts. Right now, it is a safe place for me to be.
For many years, I have understood sanity to be not an elimination of unhealthy thoughts but the ability to distinguish healthy thoughts from unhealthy ones. What makes the neighborhood of my mind beautiful today is that through my spiritual practices, I can recognize any unhealthy or dangerous thoughts. I am not responsible for my first thought. I am responsible for my second thought and my first action.
The daily work enables me to recognize my thinking as my own and to avoid being frightened by it, even when dangerous or unhealthy thoughts may come.
Thank you for reading me today. May we all be well and have a beautiful day!
Durham, NC, USA
Hello fellow oa’ers. I referred to this fable in a meeting recently. I thought it fit in with OA. Enjoy!
An old man on the point of death summoned his sons around him to give them some parting advice. He ordered them to bring in a bundle of sticks, and said to his eldest son: “Break it.”
The son strained and strained, but with all his efforts was unable to break the bundle. The other sons also tried, but none succeeded.
“Untie the bundle,” said the father, “and each of you take a stick.” When they had done so, he told them: “Now, break,” and each stick was easily broken
Sticks in a bundle can’t be broken but sticks taken singly can be easily broken. Same applies to people.
There is strength in union.
Aesop For Children (The Bundle of Sticks)
A certain Father had a family of Sons, who were forever quarreling among themselves. No words he could say did the least good, so he cast about in his mind for some very striking example that should make them see that discord would lead them to misfortune.
One day when the quarreling had been much more violent than usual and each of the Sons was moping in a surly manner, he asked one of them to bring him a bundle of sticks. Then handing the bundle to each of his Sons in turn he told them to try to break it. But although each one tried his best, none was able to do so.
The Father then untied the bundle and gave the sticks to his Sons to break one by one. This they did very easily.
“My Sons,” said the Father, “do you not see how certain it is that if you agree with each other and help each other, it will be impossible for your enemies to injure you? But if you are divided among yourselves, you will be no stronger than a single stick in that bundle.”
In unity is strength.
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Hi, fellow oa’ers! It’s time to bid 2021 a goodbye. I just want to say that I love OA and doing service. Thanks for the fellowship and support I get from all of you. Wishing you a Happy New Year!
I’ve included a little story that I’ve referred to a few times lately. Hope you enjoy it!
Getting to know God
Me: God, can I ask You a question?
Me: Promise You won’t get mad?
God: I promise.
Me: Why did You let so much stuff happen to me today?
God: What do you mean?
Me: Well, I woke up late.
Me: My car took forever to start.
Me: At lunch they made my sandwich wrong and I had to wait.
Me: On the way home, my phone went DEAD, just as I picked up a call.
God: All right.
Me: And on top of it all off, when I got home – I just want to soak my feet in my new foot
massager and relax. BUT it wouldn’t work!!! Nothing went right today! Why did You do that?
God: Let me see, the death angel was at your bed this morning and I had to send one of My Angels to battle him for your life. I let you sleep through that.
Me (humbled): OH.
God: I didn’t let your car start because there was a drunk driver on your route that would have
hit you if you were on the road.
God: The first person who made your sandwich today was sick and I didn’t want you to catch what they have, I knew you couldn’t afford to miss work.
Me (embarrassed): okay.
God: Your phone went dead because the person that was calling was going to give false witness about what you said on that call, I didn’t even let you talk to them so you would be covered.
Me (softly): I see God.
God: Oh and that foot massager, it had a shortage that was going to throw out all of the power in
your house tonight. I didn’t think you wanted to be in the dark.
Me: I’m sorry God.
God: Don’t be sorry, just learn to Trust Me…. in All things , the good and the bad.
Me: I will trust You.
God: And don’t doubt that My plan for your day is Always Better than your plan.
Me: I won’t God. And let me just tell you God, Thank You for everything today.
God: You’re welcome, my child. It was just another day being your God and I love looking
after My Children.
-Spiritual Principle of Step 12
It is after 5 PM on Friday and I am trying to finish my walk for the day. I started walking earlier today but cut it short to prepare food for a family dinner which has been moved from tonight to tomorrow night to accommodate others. I am grateful that today was much warmer than it has been so it is still mild out. I also appreciate that I am not working today, unlike my sponsee and the woman who is currently delivering the US mail.
As my sponsor (who will also be out in the dark while walking her dog) said, one of the benefits of being outside this evening is getting to see Christmas lights. Another benefit for me is seeing the hot pink ripples in the sky after the sunset. I also don’t want to take for granted that I have people who I will be spending time with this weekend, who love me and want to spend time with me. Being flexible with our schedule so that a family member can join us is practicing the Tool of Service. And since service is also the Spiritual Principle of Step 12, l give myself double credit. 😉 You all have taught me that it really isn’t all about me!
Thank you for letting me be of service and practice the steps. May we all be well.
Durham, NC, USA
“When we applaud someone’s weight loss or celebrate abstinence anniversaries in our meetings, it doesn’t mean we are singling out these people for glory. It means we are rejoicing in a fellow compulsive overeater’s recovery.”
Tradition Twelve, The Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions of Overeaters Anonymous, Second Edition,
This morning my meeting read Tradition Twelve from the revised OA 12 & 12, spiritual principle: Spirituality.
I shared about celebrating 15 years of abstinence and recovery this week. Instead of focusing on “How’d you do it?” which is what we traditionally ask someone who is celebrating an anniversary, I suggested answering WHY we do it. Why the change? First, there is a chapter in the Big Book that tells us how it works. And, the WHY is the root of Hope that keeps me coming back.
I keep coming back, one day at a time, working the steps and practicing spiritual principles in all of my affairs because I love the results. In addition to enjoying a healthy body I live an amazing, joyful life! I have loving, healthy relationships (with myself and others), I have work which am capable of doing (after years of doubting my abilities), and I no longer let fear and fat dictate my well-being. These are just some of the intangible results of my working the steps all of these years.
My own experience, strength and hope – which I gain as THE result of working the steps – encourages me to continue today what has worked for the past 5,484 days! Thanks for showing up with me today!
Hugs and deep gratitude,
Durham, NC, USA
Unfortunately, it has happened. One of our meetings has been zoom-bombed with with obscenities and vulgar information. For the security of our meetings, effective immediately, each meeting MUST be opened by a virtual key holder, and all attendees must be admitted to the meeting.
**This matter, and how to move forward in the future, will be discussed further at the December 18 BRIG meeting. Please discuss this at your meetings, and urge a representative to attend BRIG so each meeting will have a voice.
Please consider serving our community by being a virtual key holder.
Baton Rouge Zoom Virtual Key Holder/Host instructions:
–You will need to log out of your personal zoom account and login as the virtual key holder for that meeting only (https://zoom.us/signin). You will need to log back in on your personal account for any other meeting.
Contact Tami M (205-267-8759), Jan B (225-328-0639), Sandy B (225-603-6617), or another Key Holder for log in inform.
–Please find a replacement virtual key holder and instruct them if you cannot keep up with this service. The meeting cannot open if a keyholder is not able to attend.
–Start the zoom meeting at least 5 minutes early. The meeting leader will open and close the meeting as usual.
–All meeting participants will need to be allowed entrance by the key holder, as they log in.
–Be willing to mute any distracting noises and address them as needed, including removing hecklers/bullying individuals and “zoom-bombers.”
- Click on “Participants”
- Select the person you want to mute or remove
- A list of options will appear. Click on whichever action you need, like “Mute audio,” or “Remove.”
–Log-out once the meeting is over.
New post from Atiya
“If I want to go fast, I go alone; if I want to go far, I go together.”
This slogan is a quick summary of what I was like and what I am like today. When I found all of you, what I wanted (and knew) was fast. I would speed and had multiple speeding tickets and car accidents to show for it. I always wanted to go alone because then I could do it my way. And my relationships were surface and superficial because I did not yet understand that intimacy takes time to develop.
Today, I understand that I need other people in order to have a satisfactory life. I have learned how to have deep and intimate relationships. And most of the time, I want to go together.
Sponsorship is one of the tools that has helped my transformation. In addition to sponsorship being a necessity for the way I work the steps, it is in having a sponsor and being a sponsor that I learned how to have healthy, loving, trusting, accepting relationships.
Thank you for teaching me how to go far!
Durham, NC, USA